‘He’s going to kill me’ Ambassador: Dr Angela Jay said “I don’t think I’ll ever be 100 per cent the same as I was before”.
Survivor: Dr Angela Jay on the Larapinta Trail.
Survivor: Angela Jay with brother Zachary Oliff and her dad, Stephen Oliff on the Larapinta Trail.
TweetFacebook“People might have preconceived notions about domestic violence only happening to low socio-economic groups or when there’s drugs or alcohol involved,” she said.
“I want to open people’s eyes that… if it does happen to you it does not mean you’re uneducated, stupid or something is wrong with you.”
Dr Jay said her experience had made her a better doctor.
“It’s definitely increased my sensitivity and empathy for my patients,” she said.
“I might not know about a history of trauma but I think I’m open to the possibilities of what someone has been through in their life.
“I’m aware there might be other things underlying what they’re presenting with.
“I delve more comprehensivelyinto their background.”
Dr Jay considers herself “extremely lucky” to have mostly healed from her physical wounds.
“I feel discomfort in some parts of my forearm and have sensory pain issues especially because I scrub when I operate,” she said.
“My left hip where most of my stab wounds are gets sore.
“I have a major artery in my forearm that is blocked and gets painful.
“But overall I’m doing well.”
But she saidher emotional and mental recovery had been more challenging.
“It’s very much an emotional roller coaster,” she said.
“In some ways I’m less hopeful about personal aspects of my life.
“It used to be very important to me to have a partner, family and in some ways I feel like that future is gone for me.
“In other ways I feel very humbled by the experience and… have a deep appreciation for the strength of human beings and what people can endure and still find joy in life.
“I’m very grateful and trying to enjoy every moment in life because you never know when your time is up.
“It does define me at the moment. So I’m trying to find my new identity because I don’t think I will ever be the same person. I need to find myself and… get a sense of who I am outside my trauma.”
A month after the attack Dr Jay signed up to White Ribbon ’s Trek for Respect, a more than 65 kilometre walk along the Larapinta Trail in the Northern Territory.
She raised more than $80,000 for the charity and has since set hersights on the Kokoda Track over Anzac Day next year.
Dr Jay urged those around survivors to show empathy, listen without judgement and be aware of victim blaming.
To survivors, she said, you are never alone.
“You have not done anything wrong and there’s always support available.
“It’s very difficult but if you can find the strength to reach out and find others to lean on it makes a world of difference.”
Hunter White Ribbon Breakfast Bookings: 4935 1287 or www.proticket老域名购买.au/Events/Details/4787
For help: 1800RESPECT or Lifeline13 11 14